We can sometimes be very quick to share our own thoughts, ideas, opinions, and suggestions with others. It's natural that we all want to contribute to a conversation. However, how often do we invest in deeply listening to others?
Being a good listener goes well beyond just simply listening. Great listeners want to know more in order to genuinely understand the perspective of others. To a great listener, it is never about proving someone wrong, but rather investing deeply in trying to understand their point of view.
Deeper trust is built by being curious about what others think, feel, and believe. Seeking to better understand builds trust. Asking deeper questions to get to the core of what they person is trying to say builds trust.
One question that a mentor of mine would always ask is simple:
What makes you say that?
Five simple yet powerful words.
To better understand another person's point of view, I would always hear my mentor ask this question. It not only showed that she was interested in what the other person had to say, it also showed respect. And it allowed the person to know that what they were trying to share mattered.
People always feel more valued when others truly listen to them. So, if you've never used this question before, give it a go. Whether it be with your spouse, child, student, friend or colleague, those 5 simple words can let people know that you genuinely care about what they have to say.
KAUST Faculty, Pedagogical Coach. Presenter & Workshop Leader.IB Educator. #RunYourLife podcast host.